‘So many years of education, yet nobody has ever taught us how to love ourselves and why it is so important’ -This quote really inspired me to write this post as if there is one thing that I can teach my younger self is why self-love is so important.
As an empath, I always naturally want to help other people with any troubles that they are facing. It’s something that I get great satisfaction from & will continue to do. I love that I have a caring & empathetic nature, however, I have also noticed that I don’t always give myself the love & care I provide to others and can find myself putting other people’s needs before mine. During my journey of self-love, I have identified this and have realised that putting my needs first once in a while is okay and definitely necessary for peace of mind.
By putting my needs first, I have also recognised that I truly don’t give myself enough praise for the good things that I achieve and can tend to fixate on the stuff that I’m not doing right. Negative self-talk can be really disparaging to your self-esteem so when I notice myself doing this, I stop and replace it with positive self-talk. To help boost my self-esteem I have been keeping a daily log where I document 3 things that I am proud of myself for doing that day. I have been practising this exercise for a couple of weeks now & I can honestly say that I have seen a positive shift in my mood.
I have also noticed that I can put a lot of pressure on myself to stay on top of things and to be constantly working and moving. The best thing I did to practice self-love was to take some time out off to really tune in with myself and figure things out. I’d been craving a period of solitude for a while and knew that I had to do it in order to grow and process my thoughts. By doing this, it has truly made me enjoy my own company and gradually learn to love myself.
I cannot recommend taking some time out for yourself enough as I feel that it has been pivotal to my personal growth. I have learned to identify & appreciate my strengths and to work on my flaws -I have also realised that the more you value yourself, the more the world will value you. The less you value yourself, the less the world will value you-which can also attract poor treatment from others. Learn to become your number one fan & start believing in yourself and the world will too!
The last thing I want to mention is to push yourself to do things that are outside your comfort zones – ‘Great things never came from comfort zones’ and I totally agree. Naturally, the human subconscious will avoid things that we perceive as different or frightening and the body will go into fight or flight mode. By trying new things you build courage and strength, you discover more about yourself and you can open up further opportunities which can be crucial to your self-development. I have started saying yes to doing more things that I find a little daunting and I have noticed that it has done wonders to my self-esteem & confidence.
Practising self-love is not going to be something that you learn overnight… It will take time & may come with many trials and tribulations. The first step is recognising that it is important to practice self-love and realise that you are worthy of it.
How do you practice self-love?