Hi guys, I wanted to talk to you about a topic that I feel is becoming more and more prevalent in our everyday lives. Comparing ourselves to others is something that I feel we have all been guilty of at some point or another – I know I can totally hold my hands up and say that I find myself indulging in this from time to time, which can be quite harmful to your self-esteem.
As a blogger, it can be difficult not to compare your blog to someone else’s, or dwell on the fact that they have more comments or followers than you. However, that does NOTHING to help you better yourself. Instead, you should be putting that energy into working towards your goals and aspirations…as the old saying goes ‘comparison is the thief of joy‘, which I totally agree with.
Since I have young and impressionable teenage nieces, who like to keep up with the latest makeup and fashion trends, I feel that this has made me more aware of just how much young girls feel the need to conform to a certain type of image that is plastered all over social media. As their Auntie, I believe that it is my duty to reinforce to them that they should always aspire to be comfortable in their own skin and never try to be anyone else but themselves.
Here are some things that I remind myself, which help me curb the urge to make these comparisons:
- Be wary of what you are consuming online – You have full control of what you choose to direct your energy towards, so make sure that it’s making you feel inspired and to want to be a better version of you. Anything that provokes feelings of lack or envy does not require your attention.
- Don’t compare yourself to the unobtainable – Comparing yourself or your life to a Kardashian, in my opinion, is silly! Firstly, they have an extravagant lifestyle as they have vast amounts of money. Secondly, they have had quite a bit of work done and are heavily made up most of the time. I’d say ‘good for them’, but I know that aspiring to have their lifestyle is just not realistic.
- Goal setting –Keep pushing yourself towards your own goals and constantly aim to work on yourself. Do not allow yourself to get distracted or caught up with things that have nothing to do with your goals. Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent-Betty Jamie Chung
- Not everything is picture perfect – Life is not a perfect Pinterest feed and you need to remember that people tend to share the good things in their life. It’s very rare that you’ll find someone sharing a picture of them sporting a greasy bun with spots all over their face. Please remember this the next time you scroll through your Instagram feed.
- Everyone’s journey is different –We all have different interests and goals, and we’ve all started at different times. Comparing myself to someone who has had a blog for 5 years and is doing far better than me is an illogical thing for me to do. Rather than holding on to feelings of resentment, you must remember there is enough room for all of us to succeed.
I hope you have enjoyed this blog post and gained some useful tips on how you can avoid comparing yourself to others. It all comes down to being content in your own skin and using the time and energy in bettering yourself. Why not set yourself a new goal? Working towards goals gives you a sense of worth and empowers you once you have achieved them:) When I find that I am comparing myself to others, I refer to the points I’ve mentioned above and recall how much I’ve progressed.
Please remember that we are all unique! You just need to believe in yourself and work on making YOU a better version of yourself. How do you deal with comparing yourself to others?